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Q: How can I move through the world without having my spirit wounded?

Carolyn’s response: This is such a powerful question. And one that has moved me continuously forward on my spiritual journey. In the eight years since I’ve discovered what I am – an empath, an HSP and a clairsentient – I have explored and developed a process that works for me and the countless sensitives I’ve coached.

This process, called Energy Management, is based on three principles:

1. We run our energies on three basic levels: in our body, thoughts and emotions
   
   
2. The ability to manage the energies of our body, thoughts and emotions can be learned
   
   
3. Learning these abilities of energy management (skill-building) improves empaths, HSPs and clairsentients’ ability to interact with the world; increases our creativity and performance; and allows us to attract a supportive and nurturing environment that values our sensitivities.

Creating an environment that supports learning energy management is my primary goal in dealing with my sensitivities. I call my supportive environment ‘Extreme Self-Care’ because it helps to remind me that the support I am wanting has to begin with me. The more I take care of myself, the better able I am to help others –my son, my family, my clients, or the world in general.

My Extreme Self-Care includes:

1. taking care of my body – recognizing, accepting and exploring ways to ease my allergies (sensitivities) to foods, plants, animals and man-made materials, such as plastic and rubber. This care also includes scheduling my days as rigidly or as flexibly as my body guides me around the amounts of sleep, solitude and movement I need.
   
   
2. taking care of my thoughts – most specifically, focusing on what I do want, rather than what I don’t want and systematically shedding “shoulds” and “should nots” that I’ve inherited from my culture, such as “I should not let my fatigue or emotional state stop me from the task I’m working on.”
   
   
3. taking care of my emotions – recognizing, accepting and learning to partner with my emotions as Guidance that is helping me make decisions in every aspect of my life. For example, anger is the emotion that tells me that I have to strengthen a boundary I have set.

Modeling Extreme Self-Care is one of the primary goals of our website and ezine. Each month, in our Skill-Building column, we’ll offer tips and activities that can help you create your own Extreme Self-Care environment. The classes we offer will teach you practical energy management skills that you can begin to apply in your life. The Q&A section will highlight a specific area of energy management skills. The products we highlight are ones we use for our own Extreme Self-Care.

To begin your Extreme Self-Care, I’d ask you to change your question to an intention or desire, such as “I am learning how to move through the world while keeping my spirit intact.” And, then act upon that intention/desire in a small, very gentle way that feels good to you. Don’t try changing your whole life in one fell swoop. That’s the surest way to overload a sensitive.

Small, gentle steps are one way we model Extreme Self-Care for you in the ezine. First, the ezine only comes out once a month, in order to give all of us (editors and readers alike) to explore, try on and discern which tips and suggestions work for us. Secondly, the ezine is strictly limited to size, with links back to the website, in order to allow readers to explore the areas that appeal to them and ignore those that don’t. And finally, we encourage feedback, suggestions and commentary because we know that the fastest way to learn energy management skills is by interacting with other conscious empaths who are willing to share, without attachment, what they have learned on their journey of self-discovery.

~Carolyn Wilson-Elliott
Empath, HSP & Clairsentient
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Lauren’s response: What a great question! Certainly, if there was a magic pill, we all would have already taken it :) For us sensitive souls who feel so much, it is definitely a challenge to shine our light brightly and be out there in the world. Many times, we shut down our senses in order to avoid being wounded or over-stimulated - I know I've experienced survival shut down many times.

Today, there are wonderful tools and techniques available from practical and tangible to metaphysical to help us. Some of these tools filter the incoming energies, some block them, some help us stay grounded and centered, while others help us to release toxic energies. Some examples are in this Premiere issue.

Carolyn, Frederick and myself each bring a unique toolbox to the world of Empaths and HSPs as a result of our experience and trainings and we are inspired to share them with all of you that we might all embrace our gifts, take excellent care of our Selves and share our visions with the world.

~Lauren Lee
Empath and HSP
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Frederick’s response: As a man, I was taught to hide my feelings. To not do so was to be 'less than a man.' As an HSP of the male gender, I discovered that my 'hiding' created a pressure cooker of suppressed feelings. The pressure release whistle, when it happened, manifested in outbursts of anger (sometimes, rage), uncontrollable fear and great sadness. When there was an appearance of outward calm, there was often the same anger, fear and sadness underneath. For some reason, as a teenager, I made a lousy football player.

As an adult, I tried wearing all my armor and all my masks to avoid being wounded. I found it hard to move through the world carrying all this weight. In fact, sometimes, I couldn't move at all. And, as I began removing some of my armor and masks, it became easier to move, go places, try new things, and be around more people. Uh, oh! I discovered that I wasn't hiding as effectively as before. Others could see me now. I felt safer when I thought I could not be seen. I also felt more disconnected and lonely.

Terrified of revealing where I stood on anything, I continually suffered from sprained and broken ankles as a young man. I searched for someone to say I was okay. I projected my father/mother wounds onto others. I did not know what it was like to be self-confident and grounded. And, I was very good at faking it. No one had a clue. So, I thought. Relationships did not work. Marriages did not work. Even work did not work. Something had to change.

I began a long period of personal and spiritual growth. I discovered that I can love and affirm myself. It's hard, and I can do it. I can be vulnerable. That's hard, too. And, I can attract like-minded, sensitive and understanding people into my life. The answer for me has been to become energetically a safe person for myself and others. I choose to become grounded and create a safe container for myself and those within my circle. A biggie: I've stopped expecting the women in my life to take care of me. I do that for myself now.

I learned to accept my sensitivities as my gifts to the world. I've learned to define and defend boundaries that protect me from others' energetic blasts. I've learned to be conscious, awake and in touch with my deeper self. I've learned to honor myelf and bless others. In spite of all my successes, I still struggle to be real, authentic and come from my power as a man. And, when I do, my life is full of joy and fun. I judge that yours can be, too.

~ Frederick Whitmeyer, HSP
Spiritual Life Coach
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